We can all feel. But do we express what we feel? And in particular, are we acting on it?

On Sunday 27th May 2018, Australian born Natalie Benhayon presented a Fit for Life workshop in Cologne. In the course of this well attended workshop, it became clear that the way many of us live is not making us fit for life. Participants discovered that life-fitness is not something we need to learn, but something that already lies within us, and that we only have to come back to a truer way of living.

Fit for Life has nothing to do with physical activity, nor is it a self-help course, laboriously digging for the promised gold and promising a 10 point self-improvement plan to be absolutely successful.

But just as an Olympic athlete trains to be fit for the gold medal, there is also training that can help keep our day-to-day life healthy and vital.

However, with lifestyle illness and disease on the rise, reality shows us that it is much more challenging to live true health in everyday life than to win an Olympic gold medal. Most people live as if you could get the gold without training at all. Very few seriously consider diet, physical fitness and emotional and mental health as anything other than inconsequential aspects of everyday life. Yet without these things a professional athlete would not even make it to the starting line.

In small groups, participants worked together to explore the question of where each one of us stood on the Fit for Life scale.

  • How much are we overrun by life and trying to survive?
  • How much room is there between us, and everything that affects and places expectations on us? Or maybe we are so taken by life and swallowed up in it that we have already taken the emergency exit?
  • What does life do to us or what can we do with ourselves when there is no 'space' between us and life: when the intensity of life has us in its grip and we constantly feel the pressure that life exerts on us?

It was about our being honest and looking at what excuses and what medication we use to not ‘train’ and make us 'comfortable' in the eternal cycle of unreachable gold.

Our excuses are the ideals and roles, e.g. the 'good mother' who does everything 24/7 for all and leaves herself out of the equation; or the promising career that allows us to climb tirelessly, even though the body has long been sending signals that exhaustion is becoming a daily norm. That's where our medication comes in – the coffee, the sweets, the entertainment program, the stress that keeps our nervous system busy, the evening glass of wine or beer, or the relaxing yoga lesson to counteract fatigue and keep it going and thus continue to be able to live our excuses – and with it the desired recognition and possible identification.

The key to life training? Absolute honesty. Because absolute honesty creates a space between what happens in life and oneself.

Absolute honesty allows you to stop and pause – to feel and see what's really happening in every moment. This pausing and acknowledging what one feels (in the body) – without emotions and reactions – helps us realize what is happening in life and creates space between ourselves and the incidents that turn out to be problems, complications, difficulties or conflicts that manifest in daily life. Life is no longer in control of us – it has no control over us when we acknowledge that we feel and begin to express what we feel. The insight and clarity that we gain for ourselves and our body allows us to live more and more without medication and excuses, because we are no longer caught up in our reaction to life and can now act instead of re-acting.

Natalie Benhayon shared with the participants: “Allow yourself to express at any moment what your body feels and perceives. And communicate this.” No advice and solutions, only open and honest communication.

When some people became stressed in the workshop, having to feel the ‘right thing’ and in addition to that express it, it became clear that honesty brought the space to dissolve this assumed 'problem'. Experiencing understanding and even humour in this stressful moment was an eye-opener for many.

This newly developed space for an honest and open communication that contains no criticism or condemnation because it simply reflects what is, brought lightness and light heartedness… in contrast to the usual heaviness that usually arises in problem-laden conversations.

Through this simplicity, participants gained access to wisdom and understanding of relationships that previously seemed unachievable to many – experiencing being fit for life.

"The practical exercises and tools that Natalie Benhayon showed us are actually very simple building blocks that give the impression that you already know them. The most impressive aspect is Natalie's presence in which she just is and presents. There is beauty, harmony, and depth that connects everything you already know in such a way that you can clearly understand and apply it."

Quote of a participant (27.5.2018)

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  • By Rachel Andras, MA Gender & Development, MA Social Education

    Gender policy advisor, facilitator of change management processes, adult and youth educator, focusing on body awareness and (self) care as an essential category of value-creation, impulsing processes of real change by guiding people towards themselves as experts of their own realities.