Mothering – the essence of true nurturing
With Mother’s Day, an annual event celebrated around the world, we are reminded of the importance in stopping to acknowledge and appreciate mothers and the vital role they play in the shaping and development of our young and to truly appreciate and honour mothers as the backbone they are within families. For many, mother's day provides an opportunity to openly express back the love that they have received.
Celebrations of mothers and motherhood can be traced back to the ancient Greeks and Romans, who held festivals in honour of the mother goddesses Rhea and Cybele, but the clearest modern precedent for Mother’s Day is the early Christian festival known as “Mothering Sunday.” Once a major tradition in the United Kingdom and parts of Europe, this celebration fell on the fourth Sunday in Lent and was originally seen as a time when the faithful would return to their “mother church”, the main church in the vicinity, for a special service. Over time the Mothering Sunday tradition shifted into a more secular holiday, and children would present their mothers with flowers and other tokens of appreciation. This custom eventually faded in popularity before merging with the American Mother’s Day in the 1930s and 1940s.
Mother’s Day is a holiday honouring motherhood that is observed in different forms throughout the world. The American incarnation of Mother’s Day was created by Anna Jarvis in 1908 and became an official U.S. holiday in 1914. Jarvis would later denounce the holiday’s commercialisation and spent the latter part of her life trying to have it removed from the calendar.
(Source: the history of mothers day www.history.com/topics/holidays/mothers-day)
In current times Mother's Day is recognised and celebrated in over 40 countries around the world, however it is a day that is celebrated on many different dates throughout the year. There are many countries such as Vietnam that have incorporated Mother's Day celebrations into the Internationally Recognised Women’s Day which is held in March.
Over the many years we have seen a rapid growth in the commercialisation of this day, major campaigns placing focus and attention on mums and mothers, and the importance of giving back to them for all that they ‘do’.
Yet is this really what this day of honouring is about?
It begs the question for us to go deeper ...
Has the commercialisation of this day actually created levels of separation for women within the community? Ie: does it discriminate against women who have not physically birthed children or do not have children of their own.
Have we fallen for and accepted acknowledging and recognising ‘that which we do or can be identified by in life’ ahead of that which we bring, live and offer with others in life?
Is this what has allowed the separation to occur?
It speaks volumes that the very woman who fought for and created the day “Mother's Day”, personally denounced the day within her lifetime and in fact sought to have it officially removed – obviously feeling its truth had been bastardised and lost.
In past times ‘mothering’ was considered to be the quality of living wisdom that was shown, lived, nurtured and expressed towards others, it could not be reduced or defined by one’s ‘doing’ nor was it ever limited to the physicality of whether one had children or not, more emphasis was placed on a constant way of being that was shared with all others.
Hence – true Mothering was considered an expression or a way of be-ing, whereby a woman nurtured herself in the way that she lived, and therefore all others in her daily interactions, relationships.
"Love is an observation – a situation that allows another to be held no matter what, giving them time to get to their own amazingness."Serge Benhayon
Honouring the women in our lives that have offered wisdom, unconditional love, support, grace, respect, inspiration, beauty, understanding and lessons in life is incredibly important, rewarding and worthwhile for us all – it is an expression of love that need not be limited to what one does but rather what one shares and lives.
Women must remember they are women first before they are mothers – therefore it is never what they do that defines them – it is everything they are in any given moment.