Serge Benhayon says it just how It Is, straight from the heart. Like it or not.

The Way It Is – a testimonial by Dragana Brown

Serge Benhayon says it just how It Is, straight from the heart. Like it or not.

In the summer of 2008 I picked up The Way It Is by Serge Benhayon.

As I flicked through the book, it must be said, it did not leave me thinking it was a page-turner. What inspired me to carry on licking my index finger and turning the pages was my attendance at a workshop presented by Serge almost a year earlier. I was deeply intrigued as to what was on offer in this purple bundle.

A page after the Table of Contents reads as following:


Hmm ... if by the ripe old age of 45 I had not known who I truly was could this book genuinely offer an enlightenment? A tad of my arrogance gently crept in ...

However, a line in the Editorial statement fired my imagination even more to keep reading it: “Serge has no concern about the number of people who will be drawn to this book. He is certain that those who will, will be those who are ready to integrate it.

In these words was a genuine feeling that this gentle-man, the author, did not write for money or fame, instead that his writing was/is for the pure benefit of humanity – a quality I have always greatly admired, yet seldom encountered.

So my, if I can call it reading, began. Have you had a book where you could not go past a certain number of pages?... for me this was one such book.

I remember reading The Way It Is at one of Venice’s airports during a long wait and going over the same short paragraph again and again and again ... I even forbade my children and my partner from talking to me because I thought I was unable to get the flow due to their distractions. I kept reading the entire paragraph and then not remembering a single word I had just read!

The most bizarre experience was that it’s not like it’s a book littered with ‘heavy’ language, or ‘big’ words used only by a small group of literati – on the contrary, the book is super transparent, yet I found it like I was reading something in Greek – an unfamiliar language!

For instance Serge Benhayon says:

"Love is defined by a certain quality of presence. Occultly expressed, it is the livingness of the stillness."

Serge Benhayon

EVERY single word understood yet, I had no clue what he was talking about!

Or another one:

“We call ourselves an intelligent race and this may be so, but what intelligence are we intelligent about?”

Serge Benhayon

At this point I started to question my own intelligence – I can read, yet I cannot understand, how so?!

A number of times over a period of a few months I took that book and put it down again, picked it up and down again. I don't think I went past page 50 after numerous attempts. The last I read before I temporarily abandoned the book was this:

“If what is said in this book (NOT CLAIMED JUST SAID IN A FORM OF PRESENTATION), is not to your liking and disturbs everything you know, and the pride is hurt because you have chosen to invest outside yourself, and thus been delivered the glittering crumbs such as working on the lower three chakras, etc… then this is not for you. Do not be disturbed. Close the book, give it to some who might find it different to you or you may choose to just throw it out or dispose of it as you wish to. What transpires further in this book may be or may not be for all, but neither is ‘the way it is’ equally for all. Ponder on that.”

Serge Benhayon

And I sure did. There was an incredible feeling of what I can best describe as an allowing and the author’s complete absence of any investment in the reader in what was said here. And the bonus was that, at last, I understood the entire paragraph!

I knew the book was for me but I equally knew I was not ready for what was being presented here ... YET. When I picked it up some time later it was like picking up a puzzle with lots of pieces, but a puzzle that I had completed a gazillion times before and it was almost effortless putting it all back together again. There was a knowing.

What made the difference was that when I returned to the book, I was reading it from my own personal experiences of what the writer was relaying so I could easily relate to it and there was almost no need for the brain to get involved.

A bit like listening to somebody explaining about driving before and after your first drive – you know the words, understand what they are saying, but it is not a lived experience, hence not so easy to relate to it in full. Once you put your foot on the clutch it suddenly clicks: Aha! that’s what they mean when they talk about ‘clutch biting point’!

It is that clutch biting point and it becoming a knowing!

Most who know me would say I am somebody who says it as it really is – but after having read The Way It Is I voluntarily stripped myself of that ‘quality title’ for I realised that I did not know the true meaning of The Way It Is. Serge Benhayon is a man who, unlike anyone known to me on Earth, says it just how it is, straight from the heart and onto the table, like it or not – The Way It Truly Is – and I can understand why this may not be everyone’s cup of tea, yet Serge would not for money or life alter what there is to be said in order to please anyone.

The energetic integrity of the words expressed in this volume is mega powerful and has the ability to bring us back to our true essence – Love – the most amazing state of being, the place we all come from and that which we all deeply long to return to.

To say that this book, as well as all the other books and every presentation by Serge Benhayon, have changed my life for the better, beyond recognisable and humanly comprehensible, is a sheer understatement. But this is the best that I can put in words.

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  • By Dragana Brown, Writer, World Affairs & Life Style Commentator

    Dragana loves Science. She absolutely fell in love with Serge Benhayon’s teachings because he makes science applicable to every day life and accessible to everyday people. Serge makes understanding science easier than spreading warm butter on toast!